Not All Natural Remedies are Old Wives Tales

It seems like no matter who you talk to they've got a natural remedy or an old wives' tale about getting pregnant. Some really are hair brain ideas, like the ever famous "just relax," others do have some substance behind them.

When I first started charting I noticed my luteal phase (LP), the time between ovulation and the beginning of my period, was on the short side. Normally the LP should be anywhere from 10-16 days long, mine was an average of 10, but had been as short as 8.

Of course my first mistake when noticing this trend was to employ Dr. Google to help solve the problem. As anyone knows who has ever been a patient of Dr. Google for any ailment, the news is never good, even if the problem is as simple as a hangnail. So of course I was bombarded with articles about LP defects, progesterone deficiencies, and other scary sounding problems. In all reality yes, it could cause problems getting pregnant, but most likely there could be a simple solution.

In my case the solution I came across was vitamin B6. J had already suggested we start taking a B-complex for energy since we both wanted to start working out more, so I figured might as well kill two birds with one stone, right?

I noticed within a couple days the added energy which was great, but only time and charting would tell about anything else. My first clue was that I ovulated sooner than normal, before it usually happened somewhere between day 18 and day 22, this cycle it was day 15. So I kept charting and kept waiting to see how long before the redheaded bitch made her presence know. The real shocker was she didn't show up until 13 days later, 3 days longer than my previous average! Also my post-ovulation temps were consistently higher than normal as well.

We won't know until we start trying in the fall if this will give us any help to get pregnant, and I can't wait to see if the improvements to my cycle will continue. However it just goes to show, sometimes it's worth giving something a try to see if it will help.

Playground Manners

I nanny two great little kids N (4) and B (2), I feel lucky working with the family I do. I also feel lucky to be learning so much through the eyes of these little ones that I'll get to share with my own children someday.

Today after picking N up from preschool we took a trip to the playground. There were several other kids their age running around, enjoying the return of warm weather. I always love seeing their social little personalities come out in situations like this. N tends to make one or two new friends everywhere he goes, everytime we leave a new play area it's with a string of sad goodbyes to a new friend he probably won't see again, he has such a big heart. B rarely plays with any other one child, she is either off doing her own thing or part of bigger group.

Today was different, N was off running with a couple other boys as usual, but B was hunkered down in the middle of the jungle gym with her full concentration on trying to communicate with a little boy about her age. I could tell by his hearing aids and having seen him signing with his mother earlier that he had severe hearing problems, even with the aids he didn't always hear her and vocalized only in a series of grunts and yells. But here was B doing her best to make sense of the signs and the noises, and responding to whatever she thought he may have been saying as if she was talking to any other child. They spent most of the afternoon just sitting there talking.

It was such a powerful reminder of the acceptance that children have for each other at that young age, before bullying and stereotypes invade their innocent little minds. How once their minds are tainted with those things they never are fully washed clean again, even as adults who should know better. If only everyone could show the same kind of patience and understanding that B did for that little boy today when they encounter someone who is different than themselves.

Wouldn't it be nice if we all learned some playground manners?

Adventures in Charting

So I realized before I start posting random vents about my chart (which I really, really, really wanted to do today) it would probably be good to write that intro post that I promised earlier. That way no one thinks I'm crazy.. well too crazy anyways.

The wonderful ladies over on the Getting Pregnant board on The Nest are to be credited for introducing me to the world of fertility awareness or "charting" as we often refer to it. This will be the shorter-than-Cliff's-notes version, but for what I consider the best information on the topic I highly recommend reading the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and/or visiting Fertility Friend, which will provide you with free lessons once you sign up to use their charting program (the basic version is free and I find works perfectly well without paying for the extra stuff).

If done properly fertility awareness can be used to help increase the chances of getting pregnant, or as birth control. This is not to be confused with the often warned about "rhythm method" which makes many assumptions about a woman's cycle that are just simply not true for every woman.

I choose to follow two main fertility signs: basal body temperature and cervical fluid. Both of these are tracked on a graph, which can be done by hand, but I find it easier to use the computer. It all reality it take about 5 minutes out of my day to get the information I need and track it on my chart.

Basal body temperature (BBT) is your true temperature the minute you wake up, before you've gotten out of bed or done anything else. It can and will increase slightly the later you sleep, so it has to be recorded about the same time everyday. I purchased a digital basal body thermometer at Wal-Mart for less than $10 and use my cell phone alarm to make sure I take my temperature at the same time each day. Most people will not find it as useful to track BBT alone as you will only see when you ovulated after it has happened. This is because once ovulation has occured the progesterone released the rest of you cycle will cause a shift in BBT which will be higher than before ovulation. Once again, Taking Charge of Your Fertility gets into the nitty-gritty of the how's and why's of this whole process including the cycle of hormones that makes this all happen.

Tracking cervical fluid is just about as simple, and J likes to say it's just an excuse to feel myself up everyday. For those that have never really paid attention it can be an eye opening experience learning about what your body does to help you get pregnant. Your cervical fluid has different consistencies throughout your cycle, becoming what most describe as "egg-white" consistency closer to when you will ovulate. It can be checked internally or externally, but I find internal checks work best for me. Seeing the pattern of consistencies your body produces will give you a clearer picture of when you are gearing up to ovulate. Just remember everyone is different and just because the textbook pattern isn't what you're seeing in your cycles doesn't mean something is necessarily wrong.

I use these to signs together by recognizing when I am entering the fertile phase based on the consistency of my cervical fluid and confirming that ovulation has actually occurred with the pattern of my BBT. I sometimes also use ovulation prediction kits (OPKs) to pin point my most fertile day, but they aren't absolutely necessary.

As for my vent? J decided that the first even remotely warm night of the year required the A/C to be cranked up to full blast causing me to wake up freezing the next morning and showing a temp dip where I knew there shouldn't be one, and the only way to get Fertility Friend to read my chart right was to discard that temp... and I NEVER discard a temp, so I was throughly annoyed. And yes, I know this makes me sound obsessive and just a little bit crazy, J thinks so too.

Getting Started

I just turned 25 a week ago and I'm a nanny. I'm married to my wonderful husband J who is a preschool teacher, and also eight and a half years older than me. We've talked about wanting to start a family since our early days of dating, and although he won't admit it, I think his clock is ticking a little louder than mine. Needless to say, between our careers and our desire for children of our own babies, kids, pregnancy, and right now most importantly getting pregnant are on my mind quite a bit.

I've been doing my research and practicing fertility awareness for awhile now, but it seems like with all the information floating around out there it's easy to get overwhelmed. So this is what has brought me to a place of wanting to start a blog. Originally the idea was to simply use it as a "holding cell" for all the information I wanted to keep track of, but then it occured to me I'm surely not the only one getting lost in the sea of information about trying to concieve and child rearing, so if I'm already putting the information together why not share it with others?

I'll be honest, this will mainly focus on the topics and ideas that I have the most concern about and passion for. Not every post may be for every reader, but I'm hoping there will be something for everyone. I will probably talk a lot about charting my cycles (which I think I may do an intro post about soon), natural suppliments meant to help with the process of trying to conceive, information I have collected about natural birthing techniques and breast feeding, and general things about kids I've learned through J and I's jobs.

And the name of the blog? Well, unlike some other bloggers who have already "been there" I'm still exploring, and until I get there I want to be prepared for any of the possibilities that come our way. Do I hope we avoid any trouble getting pregnant? Of course, but if we face that hurdle I'd rather be prepared. Do I plan on having a natural birth without any intervention? Yes, but things happen and I'd rather be educated on them now instead trying to figure it all out as it's about to happen. And when we do have kids? As I've already learned from the two I work with, anything's possible!